“You’re being judged no matter what, so be who you want to be.”

These 7 Small Things Impacts How People Will Judge You


We all want to avoid being judged by others—but, unfortunately, this isn't always possible. Nevertheless, you can take several steps so that people judge you as little as possible—in a negative light, that is. If you follow these tips, actually, people probably will judge you positively.

1- How you dress.

When you're dressing—particularly if you're going to be in a work-related environment—it's important to show your best self. Wear clothes that make you look good and that flatter your figure. Cover up tattoos as necessary.

2- Your tone of voice and inflections.

When you're talking, do you have an assertive, confident tone of voice, or instead do you let your sentences seem more ambiguous, almost like you're asking for permission? If your answer is the latter, then that's something you'll have to work on.

3- The hand gestures you use.

When gesturing with your hands, ensure that your movements are regular and flow well—that they're not, in other words, too fast or too erratic. If your hand movements are too erratic, people will pick up on that and consequently feel awkward. That being said, hand gestures can be a good way of improving the flow of your words; if you don't use them, you might come off as a bit stiff.

4- Your posture.

Always carry yourself with a posture that's straight and steady, but confident and relaxed at the same time. You want to appear confident without appearing threatening; this kind of stance will give others confidence in you, and they'll take you seriously when you speak.

5- The words you use.

Stop using filler words (“like,” “um,” “er”) when you speak; not using them will make you appear more intelligent. If you're a fast speaker, concentrate on speaking more slowly; this will instill in others the impression that you're intelligent. Don't start sentences, only to end them a few words later, before they're properly completed. Instead, talk slowly enough so that you have time to plan ahead for your next sentence.

6- How your face appears.

Get enough sleep so that you don't have dark circles under your eyes, and brush your teeth properly so that you can show off your pearly whites without fear. If you have problems with pimples, acne, or rosacea, seek out healthy medications and creams that will help you both look and feel great.

7- The volume of your voice.

Speak loudly enough so that you can be heard clearly, but not so loudly that others will turn their heads in surprise. You want to be heard, not to be stared at.

Ultimately, all of these tips are about more than just not being judged—they're also about improving yourself, in terms of both your interpersonal relationships and your confidence in yourself. Because, when you get right down to it, does it really matter what other people think? It's you whose body you're stuck in after all—only you that you'll get to spend the rest of your life with.