“To be happy is only to have freed one’s soul from the unrest of unhappiness.”

How Chronically Unhappy People Can Affect You


Uncontrollable circumstances that cause unhappiness in life are inevitable. We have the power to control how we react to certain situations and we have an option on how to deal with them. Unhappiness is a state of mind that can arise from a variety of causes such as perfectionism, pessimism, obsessing over events that happened in the past and are about to happen in the future, selfishness, and discontent. Unhappy people share these negative vibes that affect the people around them. They are harmful and toxic in nature and have a tendency to emotionally drain the people around them. Unhappiness is contagious so beware of emotional vampires. Being conscious of the negative effects of letting unhappy people stick around will surely keep you from becoming emotionally drained as well.

  1. Unhappy people can make you feel less of a person.

Happiness is not too difficult to find. It lies deep within one’s self. You have a choice whether to be happy or not. There are no norms or rules to follow in order to live a happy life. You just have to find things to be thankful for and be happy with it. It’s normal for people to dream big and set the bar high. Just make sure to take it easy and don’t push hard on yourself as it may lead to low self-esteem. Unhappy people usually believe that they are not good enough even if they already gave their best and did well. They aim perfection in everything and they won’t settle for anything but perfection. Remember that in life there are ups and downs and failure is a part of life.

  1. Unhappy people will always compare themselves to you and others.

The most terrible thing you could ever do is to compare your life to others. Comparing yourself and your life to other people is not good because it destroys your confidence. Most of the time, we measure up what we have – our achievements, the things that we acquire, etc to others and the comparison itself beats our self-esteem. When we realize we have less than the people around us, we start to feel jealous and jealousy is very destructive. We tend to struggle hard to get ahead and battle with the people around us even if there is no reason for us to do so in the first place.

  1. Unhappy people will limit your life because they think everything is about them.

Unhappy people are selfish and they think that everything is about them. If you get sucked into their vortex of craziness, your life will be limited and you will always hold yourself back because you are afraid of rejection. You would require assertion from others that you are good enough, otherwise you feel unworthy of the good things life has to offer. In order to avoid feeling less of yourself, remember that people don’t really pay heed to you and your life. They have a life to live and focus on and minding other people’s lives and problems would add more trouble to their already nerve-racking life.

  1. They complicate your life.

Life is not easy. It is in fact full of twists and turns. But you don’t want to cause difficulties by having toxic people around, right? We can always become accustomed to situation and develop ways to create a simpler and easier life. Just focus on your life and what is happening right now, at this moment. Remove negative thoughts and use your energy productively.