“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
Is Your Childhood Ruining Your Relationship With Your Man?
While you were growing up, you have been completely at your parents’ will. Depending on the amount of love, attention and time that were devoted to you by your parents, their involvement in your life has no doubt affected how you are when it comes to your romantic relationships.
Whether they were always there for you, never really there for you or they were excessively there for you, you are probably going to be drawn to different partners for every relationship that you have.
A person tends to be most vulnerable within the context of intimate and familial relationships. So, it is just natural that any unresolved emotional issue from your familial relationship can bleed to your intimate relationship.
Right from an early age, you have learned that you need to be counterbalance to the rest of the members of your immediate family. You became everything that your family unit expected or needed you to be.
If your parent or parents neglected you, there are chances that you will attract similarly distant partners for your relationships.
If your parent is quick to get angry, you have probably learned to walk very lightly and become very self-sufficient to the point that you no longer need any form of parenting.
If any of your parents occasionally abandoned you, you can get attracted to someone whose love you need to earn instead of feeling attracted to those people who already love you.
Because you have been so used to playing a specific role in your family, you will find partners that will keep you stuck in that specific role, unless you will undergo a talk-based, self-awareness or self-development therapy with the unconscious patterns that you have formed in your mind. So, until you become completely aware of your patterns and shift them, you are going to continue living out exactly the similar emotional trauma that you have gone through when you were still a young child.
Do you relate to any of these situations? If you do, there is a great chance that your relationship is already being affected by your childhood. However, this should not be the case. First of all, you need to understand that all the things that your parents did for you were done because of two reasons: the love that they have for you or the unconscious patterns instilled to them by their own parents. Simply put, what your parents showed to you must not in any way be an impediment for you to get your own happiness. Your childhood was all in the past and what happened then must never in any way affect what you have right now, in the present. Now that you are old enough, you should be wise enough to determine what is right and wrong and what things must be forgotten.
If your childhood was not too good, never let your dark past interfere with your chance to live your life to the fullest with your beloved man right there by your side to support you all the way.