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3 Clear Signs Of Impending Breakup And How To Deal With It
Breakups do not happen suddenly, the groundwork is typically laid for them well in advance, but many of us do not wish to read the signs. Sometimes, all it takes is some careful observation and objective thought to figure out a person's motives. Keep your eyes peeled for these three clear signs of an impending breakup, so that you can deal with it, before it deals with you.
Distancing Themselves From You
Are you used to certain routines and time spent with your significant other? Most people who are in relationships are. But does the person now make up excuses that fall apart under scrutiny? Are they constantly coming up with reasons why they can't hang out with you? If the answer to all of the aforementioned questions is yes, then you just might be on the verge of being dumped.
Our guts do not lie to us, but we can surely try to convince ourselves otherwise. When your gut feeling is telling you that your significant other is avoiding you, it is time to assess the situation, while leaving personal biases off to the side. When a person acted a certain way in the past and their mannerisms change drastically, seemingly overnight? This is usually a telltale sign.
You Don't Know Their Friends Anymore
This sign is another form of distancing, except that it takes place from a physical standpoint, as opposed to emotional. When you always find yourself wondering who these new friends are and why you never seem to get an invite, this is a problematic occurrence. Sure, your significant other may decide to hit the nightclub with some friends you don't know too well from time to time, but when this becomes a regular happening, its time to consider the consequences.
Investigate this new lifestyle that your partner has adopted. Are they doing things that they claimed they would never do before? Are they coming home drunk and under the influence of drugs? If so, these are warning signs that must be heeded. If the new group of friends is taking them to church or to volunteer to feed the homeless, that's great. If not, you should be on high breakup alert.
Frequency Of Lovemaking Plummets
Sex tapers off during the course of a relationship and this is an unavoidable reality, no matter how great the relationship might be. But when sex becomes infrequent, never happening unless you initiate, then this means that the person may have already found someone else who revs their engine more than you.
Or perhaps they are debating the best way to break up with you, so that they can pursue other people. If your sexual advances are being ignored or even refused outright, you might want to initiate the break up conversation first, so that you can leave, instead of being left.