“I think it all comes down to motivation. If you really want to do something, you will work hard for it”
Human beings are often motivated by only two things – pain and pleasure.
Most people are more fearful of pain than enticed by pleasure, unless the pain of not obtaining the pleasure is so great that it motivates them to get it no matter what.
Pain motivation is basically motivation by the stick and pleasure motivation is by the carrot.
Which of the two are more powerful? Let us explore the possibilities of both.
Pain motivation is called an ‘away from' goal. It means that you are trying to run away from a certain pain and you are going away from it.
On the other hand, pleasure motivation is more of a ‘towards to' goal. It is because you have a target on something and you are going towards it.
Most of the time, if you have a lot of ‘away from' motivation, you will not be able to sustain it for a very long time.
A good example is weight loss goals because someone gave you a very critical comment about your waistline. You might feel the criticism of being teased, and hence you will make an effort to change your diet. But as you start to lose some weight and people stop calling you fat names, you start to lose the motivation because you are going further and further away from your fears. You start to lose the motivation and you start eating again.
On the other hand, the ‘towards to' motivation is effective because as you get closer to the finish line, you become more and more motivated to go faster and get it.
It could be the completion of a big project, it could be finishing a marathon, it could be a vacation you have always dreamed of.
The mind is a powerful tool that helps you to get what you want. What you focus on expands and if you keep focusing on your ‘away from' goal, it's going to get you more and more of it.
That is why people who constantly focus on debt will never be financially free, because they will get more debt. It's the opposite if you focus on your income.
How many ‘away from' and ‘towards to' goals do you have?