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10 Crucial Questions To Ask Yourself Before Dating


Whether you have met someone and are starting to get to know them better or you are debating whether to get back out into the dating scene, these are the ten questions a person should be asking themselves before dating.

  1. Am I Attracted To Them?

Sure, physical attraction is always nice, but it is not going to keep you warm at night. Ask yourself whether you are pursuing a person for their physical attributes or if your attraction runs deeper.

  1. Am I Paying Close Attention?

We often get so hell-bent on avoiding people with certain characteristics that we forget to focus on what is truly important. Be sure to pay close attention and don't allow yourself to become a blind dater (no pun intended).

  1. Do I Mistake Sex For Love?

You may meet a person with whom you have phenomenal sexual chemistry, but with whom you have very little in common. Don't confuse sex for love, as this is a mistake often made.

  1. What About Core Values?

This is another area that typically goes neglected. Your core values serve as your fundamental foundation. Unless a person shares these values with you, you will not be able to build a relationship with them.

  1. Do I Love Myself?

Liking yourself and loving yourself are both a must before you start dating. Another person is never going to be able to love you as unconditionally as you can love yourself.

  1. Does The Person Challenge Me?

While it might be nice to find someone who does whatever you say during the early going, your enjoyment will fade quickly. Don't pick someone just because they are a doormat, date someone who challenges you in all of the best ways.

  1. Am I Insecure?

If you enter a relationship with deep rooted insecurities, it won't take long for them to bubble over the surface. So check your baggage at the door and don't force your partner to carry it for you.

  1. What Are My Non Negotiable Topics?

Maybe you already know that you definitely want kids. Or perhaps you have decided that you definitely don't want kids. Whatever these topics may be, having a firm grasp on them helps immensely.

  1. Is Religion Important?

If religion is important to you, then it should also be important to any partner that you pursue. Otherwise, the relationship could easily fall apart at a later date.

  1. Can I Enjoy Mundane Activities?

Relationships aren't all hot sex and five star meals. Knowing whether you can handle a mundane Saturday afternoon and enjoy spending time with someone, just doing the little things is hugely crucial.

If you would like to learn more about romance and dating, it can be as simple as listening to the voice inside your head or you may want to study outside sources. Dating is a constant process and requires an open mind that is ready to learn, so bear that fact in mind.