“Courage is being afraid but going on anyhow.”

5 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Time You Become Fearful


Fear is one of many things that were developed as an evolutionary advantage to help you decide whether to engage in situations or not. As an important part of your survival, when you approach a threatening situation you will have to decide whether now is the time to fight or if it’s the time to run. Before you make the decision to get scared and run, consider these 5 questions.

  1. Is it worth it?

The first thing to think about is whether it’s worth being afraid of in the first place. Are you looking for ways to ask your boss about a raise? Perhaps you’re getting behind the wheel for the first time after getting your learner’s permit. There are situations where you should be afraid and situations where you might be over exaggerating. By evaluating whether there is actually a fearful and dangerous situation in front of you, you can decide if it’s even worth being afraid or not.

  1. What am I afraid of?

There’s nothing wrong with taking a few moments to sit down and talk to yourself about what it is that is frightening you. Not only does this help you to keep inventory of situations that you might want to avoid in the future, but it also gives you the ability to figure out if you should really be afraid or not. If it’s a situation that you know you can handle, then you shouldn’t allow yourself to become overwhelmed.

  1. Are there alternatives to running?

No one has ever accomplished anything by running away from fearful situations that could actually be dealt with. Consider if there are any other options for running, such as going through the motions and working through your fears. If you take the time to show that you’re not afraid, it could benefit your self-confidence and self worth.

  1. Is there a way to prevent it?

If your fearful situation is as a result of a choice that you made, consider if there would have been a way to prevent it in the first place. This will help you to better protect yourself in the future. You might also find that if it was an unavoidable situation, you’ll have no choice but to work through your fears.

  1. Have I been through this before?

Reach into the very back of your memories and determine whether you’ve been through the same fearful situation in the past. If so, you can always use your past coping skills to learn how to overcome your fears. For example, if you’re asking your boss for a raise like you did a few years ago, think about how you approached them the last time and whether it worked in your favor or not.