“Being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure.”

5 Keys To Unlock Intimacy With Your Man

Intimacy goes beyond familiarity, beyond being accustomed to another person. Couples can live together for years, and not reach a level of intimacy that’s satisfactory for both of them – and, as a result, they can never discuss certain issues, they cannot share their fears and insecurities. Before blurting out your most intimate fantasy, though, start with some small steps to improve the level of intimacy between you and your partner.

  1. Volunteer to Take Care of Your Friend’s Dog

There’s nothing like a pet to bring two people together – at least until the two start thinking about having children, obviously. If getting your own dog is too big of a commitment at this point, find one that you can take back after a period of time (and help out a friend who’ll be out of town in the process – if nothing comes out of it, at least you’ve done a good deed).

Take care of the dog together, take it for walks, give it a bath, feed it – even picking up its waste can become a subject of good jokes between the two of you later on.

  1. Go Back into the Kitchen

There are so many ways that a couple can grow closer together while eating or preparing food. Share meals at every opportunity, even if this means switching your schedule around a bit. Cook together, experiment with aphrodisiac foods, try out his mother’s recipe, try your father’s cocktail… remember you don’t have to be a chef for this to work out. Macaroni and cheese is food too.

  1. Make a Note of Important Dates

You’ll remember anniversaries a lot more than he will, but how about other dates that are important for him? Keep an agenda and note the dates when he expects something important to happen: a call from a friend, and big meeting in the office, the final of a competition. Then ask him how that went. It shows a level of interest in his life that will trigger further commitments from both of you.

  1. Have Fun in an Active Way

Sure, you could have fun watching a comedy together, but, at the end of the day, that won’t bring you anywhere closer to each other, it’s just a lazy way to share a cheap experience. Find other ways to share a laugh and to enjoy your time together – something as simple as a quick game of tic-tac-toe during a commercial break, while watching TV together, can help. Learn from children, who do not need a lot of preparations or equipment to start playing – you can do it anywhere, no matter how little time is left before you have to part ways for the rest of the day.

  1. Find Common Friends

When starting a new relationship, one of the hardest things to do is to integrate it into your existing life. You’ll have to reduce the time you spend with some of your friends, but so will he. It will take time for other people to accept the two of you as a couple – but the way other people see you is usually a very good indicator for the direction in which the relationship will progress. Make an effort to accept his friends and learn to feel good with them; try to integrate your partner in your social circle, and don’t be shy in making new friends – it’s a good period to shake things up in your life!